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How To Nurture A Strong Mother-Daughter Relationship

The relationship between a mother and her daughter is super special. We cannot describe a mother’s love for her daughter in words, but we can surely feel it in our hearts. The bond between a mother and daughter is strong and that relationship may start at an early age. However, there are times when the relationship between a mother and her daughter can be quite complicated. How to nurture a consistent and strong mother-daughter relationship?

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Nothing can fully express our infinite happiness when first becoming a mother. We imagine one day when our daughter grows up and she becomes a close friend in our lives. That will come!

On some days, your little girl will be mature. You will be there to listen to her stories at school, her big dreams, and future plans, you can go shopping and have fun with her on weekends. But there will also be terrible days when she disobeys you, making you feel sad and nervous. At those sensitive times, you may feel that your mother-daughter relationship is falling apart, but deep down you know you love her and so does she. This means you will have to work hard to improve your relationship!

Why is a mother-daughter relationship important?

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The relationship that a daughter shares with her mother can have an impact on her sense of self-esteem, self-worth as well as her ability to make friends. Usually, children who receive encouragement and praise from their parents will grow up to be confident people. And it’s natural that a daughter may seek validation from others if she is not appreciated by her parents.

Especially, a girl usually tends to look up to her mom when she is in her teenage years. For a girl, her mother is her model and she always loves to be like her in the future. Many girls often get their perfect images of a woman from their moms. However, for most relationships, there are always ups and downs, not with the exception of the mother-daughter relationship.

Many factors can make the relationship between a mother and her daughter more complicated. It can be temperaments, experiences, personality, hormones, and many other things. But don’t worry! Whatever the cause is, you can still work upon it.

There is a core factor to keep in mind when learning how to connect with your daughter. It is to make you that you are being authentic. You may do more harm than good if you try to push a relationship with your daughter that she hasn’t been ready for. As a mom, you should start with an open conversation and relationship of trust. It’s how we are trying to create the truthfulness of motherhood, caring, and love that our little girls need for the rest of their lives.

How to build a strong relationship with your daughter

When she is a little girl

Don’t wait until your child is 2 or 3 years old, start to build a strong mother-daughter relationship soon after the birth of your kid. Some necessary things to keep in minds are:

Breastfeed your daughter

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One of the first ways to develop a strong bond with your daughter is to breastfeed her. The release of oxytocin hormome (also called the love hormone) during the breastfeeding process will make the mother love her little angle even more. As a result, it helps improving the mother daughter bond.

Normally, moms breastfeed their daughter in the first six months of her life. You may find it hard at the beginning. Don’t hesitate to ask for the help of a trained nurse to assist you with the task. try to hold your baby as much as possible to make her feel safe, comfortable, and especially loved.

There are some cases moms are unable to breastfeed their baby due to some reasons. Don’t give up, you can try to maintain skin contact with your girl. Skin-to-skin contact can also help strengthen the mother-daughter relationship.

Set a routine

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Another effective way to build a mother-daughter relationship is to spend some time with your girl daily. You should plan special weekend trips or some outdoor activities with your daughter. You can dress for your daughter, comb her hair or brush her tooth when she is young – all these things can bring you closer to your kid. If your girl wants to imitate you, let her do it. Take it as a chance to model good characters and behavior.  Don’t forget to encourage her to love imperfections and try her best to find the positive even in the negative things.

Express your affection openly

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Feel free to express your feeling to your child. If she does something well, let her know that you are very happy and proud of her. This shows her how much you love her. By sharing hugs and kisses, you are nurturing your mother-daughter relationship. For example, you can add extensive cuddle time during bedtime. Your physical acts of love are an ideal way to teach your daughter to openly demonstrate and accept affection.

Share daughter your experiences

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One of the best gifts for your daughter when she is small is your time. Spend time with her so that your daughter can know you value her as an individual. Share with her your happiness or sadness to make her feel special to you. Also, don’t forget to ask her to do appropriate household chores from an early age to raise a sense of responsibility in her.

This will surely a very hard time for your daughter as she has to try to find her identity as well as deal with various physical and emotional changes. Be there for her! Make sure that you will provide your kid necessary guidance, support, and advice. Listen to her thoughts and feelings! One thing to remember is that you should never command her at tough times as she might become rebellious. Just listen to her concerns and make efforts to channelize her anxiety or anger positively.

When she is a teenager/adult

It can be said that a daughter needs her mothers the most in her teenage years. Below are tips to strengthen the mother-daughter relationship when your daughter grows up.

Always be there for her

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This will surely a very hard time for your daughter as she has to try to find her identity as well as deal with various physical and emotional changes. Be there for her! Make sure that you will provide your kid necessary guidance, support, and advice. Listen to her thoughts and feelings! One thing to remember is that you should never command her at tough times as she might become rebellious. Just listen to her concerns and make efforts to channelize her anxiety or anger positively.

Respect her own feelings

An important tip to keep in mind is to honor your daughter’s feelings. Most of us want to be with our daughter a lot. However, if your girl loves having some “alone atmosphere”, give that to her. There are times when you make mistakes, apologize to her and make necessary amends. Be an empathetic mother who can respect your daughter’s individuality. Let her comfortably explore her inner worth and interests without inhibition.

Talk to your daughter freely

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When your daughter grows up, she may want to discover more about various things in life. At their ages, she can feel insecure about her body. Talk to her about relationships, basic character traits like courage, patience, integrity, and faith. Teach your daughter that there are some values she will need much in her life. With your love, your wisdom, and experience, empower and support her.

A mother is the first friend in the life of her daughter, who guides her throughout lives. If you have a lovely daughter, make you will be there for her and support her in all walks of life. With mom’s love, with your understanding, and with your effort, I believe you moms can develop a strong and consistent mother-daughter relationship!

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