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Parenting Helps

Parenting Helps: Role models and positive influences for kids

– Teenagers look up to their parents as strong role models. What you do and say now and in the future influences your child’s actions, attitudes, and beliefs.
– Include your child in family conversations, live a healthy lifestyle, be optimistic, take responsibility for your decisions, and more to be a role model.
– You have a big say in your child’s beliefs and long-term decisions. The stronger your bond with your kids, the more power you’ll wield.

Parents are role models for teenagers

Your job as a parent was to set the groundwork for your child’s behavior when he was younger. You possibly taught your child how to work together and take turns with others, for example. Now that your child is in his twenties, he will begin to take responsibility for his actions.

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However, you remain a significant role model.

What you do demonstrates how you want your child to act. How you deal with anger and anxiety, for example, has an impact on how your child manages her emotions. What you eat, how much exercise you get, and how you take care of yourself all have an impact on your kid.

It’s also relevant what you think. You will assist your child in managing and controlling his behavior by discussing how his actions affect others. You may also discuss the distinctions between right and wrong with your kids. This is a good time to do so because your child’s ability to understand other people’s experiences and feelings is growing.

Tips for role-modelling

Here are some suggestions to help you be a positive role model for your adolescent:

  • Include your child in family conversations and give her a say in family laws, desires, and decisions. These are excellent methods for assisting her in comprehending how people can get along with one another and collaborate.
  • Try to follow through with what you’ve told your child to do. When you don’t, teenagers will and will remember!
  • Maintain a good mindset by thinking, acting, and speaking positively.
  • Accept responsibility for your actions by acknowledging your errors and discussing what you might do better in the future to prevent repeating them. Avoid blaming other individuals or events for anything that goes wrong.
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  • To deal with problems or disputes in a relaxed and constructive manner, use problem-solving skills. When an issue arises, being frustrated and angry helps your child to do the same.
  • Show others kindness and reverence.

Your influence on your teenage child

You have a significant impact on your kids.

You may believe that your child’s peers and friends have a greater impact on him or her during the adolescent years than you do. Friends and peers have an impact on your child, but so do you; the difference is that peer influence differs from your own.

Friends are more likely to affect your child’s daily behavior, such as the music he listens to or the clothes he wears.

As a parent, you have control over your child’s fundamental beliefs, such as moral values, as well as matters about her future, such as educational choices.

And the stronger your bond with your child is, the more power you’ll wield. This is because your child values your guidance, encouragement, and good judgment. In reality, it’s very likely that when your child grows up, he’ll have values, opinions, and behaviors that are very close to yours.

Your influence over your child’s attitudes and behaviour

Many aspects of your child’s conduct, as well as her attitudes, are under your control. Here are some of the places where you can have an impact on your boy.

Friendships

You undoubtedly affected your child’s friends when he was younger by influencing his social interactions and friendships.

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You also have an indirect effect on your child’s friends during the adolescent years. Your child’s attitudes and beliefs are shaped by you, and her choice of friends is shaped by you.

It may appear that adolescents and their peers are affecting each other because they are alike. Friendships are similar since teens tend to hang out with people who are similar to them.

Relationships of respect

By modeling respectful and loving behavior in your own relationships, you will help your child choose and develop respectful relationships. If you find yourself in a disrespectful relationship, show others how to handle it positively through becoming assertive, engaging with the other individual, or finding professional support.

Read more: The Power Of Apologizing To Your Kids

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You may also assert your rights in a respectful manner. This can be as easy as respectfully declining others’ requests, such as “I can’t work late today because I agreed to assist at my child’s soccer game.” This will assist your child in developing essential social skills and ways of interacting with others.

Other medications and alcohol

You may be concerned about how your child would deal with peer pressure to try alcohol or other substances. But it’s not just friends who have an impact on teenagers in this area; you, too, have an impact.

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You may try to prevent your child from trying alcohol by talking to him or her about the effects of alcohol and other substances, as well as the dangers involved.

However, the way you use alcohol and other substances has an impact on your child’s attitudes and behavior, so you can set a good example for them. Consider the various signals you could give by drinking infrequently and in moderation versus drinking frequently and heavily.

A healthy way of life

By eating well and exercising regularly, you will set a good example for others. You could involve your child, for example, by going for a family walk or swimming together.

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You should also strive to refrain from making derogatory remarks about your own – and other people’s – bodies. This sends essential messages about body confidence and acceptance to your boy.

Attitude toward education

Your child is more likely to have a good attitude about school and learning if you make schooling seem exciting and fun. You might, for example, learn a language or a craft like knitting or painting, or read about a new subject. And while you’re at it, why not indulge in some leisure reading? It’s an excellent way to inspire your child to read.

Usage of technology

Your own use of technology sends strong signals to your child about the importance of technology in your household. Rolling around with your phone, for example, sends the message to your child that your phone is really important to you. However, scrolling through social media and then heading for a family walk sends the message that social media is just one way to have fun and relax.

How your parenting approach affects your influence on your child

Some parents take a commanding role in their children’s lives. This means you’re adamant about boundaries while still being warm and respectful of your child’s desire to be special.

Teenagers who have parents who take an authoritarian stance are less likely to be affected by peer pressure to misbehave. These teens are also more likely to be affected positively, such as by being encouraged to do well in school.

Other methods of parenting include:

  • Authoritarian – this means being in charge, with strong expectations that children can follow laws and directives. Permissive – this means having little to no limitations but being warm and welcoming.
  • Teenagers who have parents who are permissive or authoritarian are more likely to be manipulated into inappropriate conduct.

Conclusion

We’ve gone through five basic behaviors that parents should model, but there are so many more! It’s also not about being a perfect parent—about it’s being aware that your words and acts are being observed and learned by your children. This is a GOOD thing for us parents because it means that we have the opportunity to help our children grow into better people every day.

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