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9 TIPS TO BETTER PARENTING

Raising children is one of the most difficult and rewarding jobs in the world — and one for which you can feel unprepared.

Here are nine parenting suggestions to make you feel more fulfilled and understand your kids as a mom.

Increasing Your Child’s Self-Confidence

When children see themselves through their parents’ eyes, they begin to develop a sense of self. Your children pick up on your tone of voice, body language, and facial expressions. More than anything else, the words and behavior as a parent have an effect on their developing self-esteem.

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Praise successes, no matter how small, and allow children to do things on their own will make them feel capable and powerful. Belittling remarks or unfair comparisons of one child to another, on the other hand, will make children feel worthless.

Make sure you’re not making any loaded comments or using words as a shield. Comments such as “What a dumb thing to do!” or “You sound more like a kid than your little brother!” can be just as damaging as physical blows.

Be compassionate and choose your words carefully. Tell your children that everybody makes mistakes and that you still love them despite their bad attitudes.

Catch Children Behaving Well

Have you ever considered how many times you respond negatively to your children in a single day? It’s possible that you’ll find yourself criticizing even more than complimenting. How would you respond if your boss gave you too much bad advice, even if it was well-intentioned?

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Catching kids doing something right is more effective: “You made your bed without being asked — that’s fantastic!” or “I was watching you play with your sister and I noticed how patient you were.” Over time, these comments can do more to foster good conduct than repeated reprimands.

Every day, make it a point to find something to be grateful for. Be generous with your incentives — your affection, hugs, and compliments can go a long way and are always sufficient compensation. You’ll soon notice that you’re “growing” more of the actions you want to see.

Set boundaries and stick to your discipline.

In every household, discipline is needed. Discipline is intended to assist children in selecting appropriate activities and developing self-control. They will test the boundaries you set for them, but they need certain boundaries in order to mature into responsible adults.

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Establishing house rules assists children in understanding and developing self-control. No TV before homework is completed, and no punching, name-calling, or hurtful teasing are permitted.

You may want to implement a scheme that includes a single alert, accompanied by penalties such as a “time out” or the loss of privileges. Failure to follow through with the consequences is a common blunder made by parents. You can’t punish children for speaking up one day and then neglect them the next. Consistency teaches what you want to learn.

Schedule Time for Your Children

It’s not always easy for parents and children to sit down for a family meal, let alone spend quality time together. However, there is certainly nothing that children would enjoy more. Get up 10 minutes earlier in the morning to eat breakfast with your kids, or leave the dishes in the sink after dinner and go for a walk. When children do not receive the attention they want from their parents, they sometimes act out or misbehave in order to be heard.

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Many parents find it rewarding to schedule time with their children together. Every week, set aside a “special night” for your family to spend time together, and let your children help you determine how to spend it.

Look for other ways to communicate with your child, such as leaving a note or something special in his or her lunchbox.

Adolescents seem to need less of their parents’ undivided attention than younger children. Since there are less opportunities for parents and teens to interact, parents should make every effort to be present when their teen expresses an interest in talking or participating in family activities. Attending concerts, sports, and other activities with your teen shows that you care about him or her and allows you to learn more about him or her and his or her friends.

If you’re a single dad, don’t feel bad about it. It’s the little things you do — popping popcorn, playing cards, going window shopping — that add up to a lot.

Be a good role model for others.

By watching their parents, young children will learn a lot about how to behave. The younger they are, the more they can pick up on your cues. Consider this before you lash out or lose your cool in front of your kids: Is this how you want your child to act when he or she is angry? Be mindful that your children are always watching you. Children who strike have a role model for violence at home, according to studies.

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Respect, friendliness, fairness, compassion, and tolerance are all qualities you want to instill in your children. Demonstrate selflessness. Do things for others without expecting anything in return. Thank you and give compliments. Above all, treat your children as you would like others to treat you.

Prioritize communication.

You can’t expect your children to do something only because you, as an adult, expect them to “So say it.

“They, like adults, want and deserve answers. If we don’t take the time to articulate our beliefs and motivations, children will begin to question whether they are true. Reasoning with children allows them to understand and learn in a nonjudgmental manner.

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Make it clear what you intend. If a problem exists, explain it, share your emotions, and invite your child to help you find a solution. Consequences must be included. Make recommendations and include options. Also, be receptive to your child’s suggestions. Make an effort to reach an agreement. Children who are involved in the making of decisions are more likely to carry them out.

Be willing to change your parenting style if necessary.

If you always feel “betrayed” by your child’s behavior, you may have unreasonable expectations. Parents who believe in “shoulds” (for example, “My child should be potty-trained by now”) may find it beneficial to do some research or speak with other parents or child development specialists.

Since children’s environments influence their actions, you will be able to alter that behavior by altering the environment. If you find yourself saying “no” to your 2-year-old all the time, consider changing your environment so that less items are off-limits. Both of you will be less frustrated as a result of this.

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When your child grows older, you’ll need to adjust your parenting style. It’s likely that what works now for your child will no longer work in a year or two.

Teens are more likely to look to their peers for role models than to their parents. However, while encouraging your teen to gain more freedom, continue to provide direction, motivation, and effective discipline. And make the most of every opportunity to communicate!

Read more: Role models and positive influences for kids

Demonstrate Your Unconditional Love

You have the responsibility of correcting and directing your children as a parent. However, how you provide corrective advice makes a huge difference in how a child responds to it.

When confronting your kid, avoid accusing, criticizing, or finding faults, as these actions can lower self-esteem and lead to resentment. Instead, even when disciplining your children, aim to cultivate and inspire them. Make sure they understand that, while you hope for and expect more the next time, your love will always be there for them.

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When your child grows older, you’ll need to adjust your parenting style. It’s likely that what works now for your child will no longer work in a year or two.

Teens are more likely to look to their peers for role models than to their parents. However, while encouraging your teen to gain more freedom, continue to provide direction, motivation, and effective discipline. And make the most of every opportunity to communicate!

As a parent, be aware of your own needs and limitations.

Recognize that you are a flawed parent. As a family leader, you have both strengths and weaknesses. Recognize your strengths — “I am a caring and committed person.” Make a promise to focus on your flaws — “I need to be more disciplined.” Try to set reasonable goals for yourself, your family, and your children. You don’t have to know everything; be patient with yourself.

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Often, make parenting a manageable task. Rather than attempting to solve all at once, concentrate on the areas that need the most focus. When you’re exhausted, admit it. Take a break from parenting to do stuff that would make you feel good about yourself (or as a couple).

Putting your needs first does not make you a greedy person. It simply means that you are concerned about your own well-being, another essential value to instill in your children.

Conclusion

We all want to be the best parents we can be for our kids, but there’s a lot of contradictory advice out there about how to raise a confident, kind, and happy boy. It’s critical to concentrate on managing goals, juggling roles, and rapidly switching between the needs of your children, other family members, and yourself in the circus act of parenting. Modern parents have access to the entire internet and do not rely on any single authority. It’s difficult to know who or what to believe. With these useful tips we discussed today, we hope to help your child develop into a person you admire without losing yourself in the process.

Thanks for your reading!

4 Comments

  • Terrysal

    In the closet: OK, so one time when I was really little I had a best friend who was kinda strange but so my mom got a call one day asking if she was over at my house because they couldn’t find her and so they call again about two hours later to ask if we could help look for her and so about three hours of looking we had basically covered the entire neighborhood and they were about to call the police and we decided to check their house one more time and my mom went into her room and found her completely naked and sleeping on the top of a super tall shelf in her closet.

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